by Jason Stotts
I have never understood the term “dirty mind” – it is no more than a base attempt to denigrate sexuality via the argument from intimidation. The implication, of course, is that if one does understand why sexual thoughts are dirty, then this is a further indictment of one’s character.
I, however, do not believe in disparaging natural aspects of human nature.
Proper sexuality is a sign of being a healthy human being. There are fundamentally two kinds of people in the world: those whose lives are ascending to a zenith and those whose lives are descending to a nadir – those who are flourishing and those who are decadent. Sexuality can be a sign of a healthy life, a sign that one is flourishing, that one is living well – that one respects and loves oneself and that one has found another worthy of one’s love and devotion. Sexuality, on the contrary, can also be a way to attempt to deceive oneself and others – it can be a sign of decadence and a thinly veiled attempt to cover this fact by partaking in the sacred act. Sexuality, like all values, can be perverted and turned against life.
There are some goals, let us call them “apparent values”, that appear to be legitimate, but which are not. These are caused by the perversion or misidentification of a legitimate value. These supposed “values” are in fact detriments to their holder: while those who falsely value drugs destroy their minds and bodies, those who falsely value sex destroy their very humanity with its perversion. This punishment is not doled out by a fictitious celestial father-figure, but dealt by their very nature and reality itself. Life exacts a price for decadence. Those who falsely value that which harms their minds, lose their minds. Those who falsely value that which harms their bodies, lose their bodies. Those who falsely value that which is anti-life, get exactly what they asked for – death comes as a fulfillment of their wish for the anti-life.
Sexuality, in the true flourishing sense, is one of the most sacred of acts – it is an affirmation and celebration of oneself, one’s partner, and of existence. Sex, properly conceived, is an act of love. There is more to sex than just the physical act; it is fundamentally a spiritual act as well. Sex is more than just bestial copulating, more than just hedonic indulgence, more than a mere “wriggling of meat” – as it has so uncouthly been called. Sex is a celebration of the life that two people are sharing together and their mutual value to each other.
A healthy sex drive requires a true understanding of the nature of sexuality, self-esteem, pride, and the knowledge that your lover is a good person who will contribute to your flourishing.
A “healthy sex drive” is precisely that – healthy.
A healthy sexuality is indicative that one is not only flourishing in life, but that one knows this and is purposely flourishing, rather than merely doing well in life by chance.
Here the question arises: what kind of depravity could drive a person to hate sex?
To hate sex means to hate one’s humanity, sex is integral to being human.
To hate sex means to be fundamentally mistaken about sex, one cannot hate the good.
To hate sex means to hate life, to be decadent.
There are very few groups of people who actually hate sex; primarily people who were abused and people who are religious. The former have a legitimate reason to hate sex, its perversion practiced upon them has damaged them – yet they can fix this if they try. The latter have a reason to hate sex as well, they hate life. Or rather their hatred of sexuality follows from their hatred of life.
It is the religious people in our society who have warped our culture into its current state of depravity – its current suicidal headlong rush into the bowels of decadence. To create a need for religion, one must create a hatred of life. To create a hatred of life, one must create hatred in the hearts of man for their very humanity. To create this hatred, one must only pervert one thing – sexuality. Proud men do not need religion; only the weak and decadent need religion.
It is this need to pervert humanity which has given rise to the term “dirty minded” as a direct assault on sexuality. The religious zealots cannot make you hate yourself – you would see through their arguments if they tried to convince you of this in the open. In order to create the hatred they need to control you, they must make you hate yourself. To do this is simple: all it takes is insidious lies and false premises.
Have you ever wondered why religion thinks sex is evil?
If you think I’m being too drastic about religion thinking sex is evil; have you ever noticed that in christianity, what caused the “fall from Eden” in the bible was knowledge of sexuality? When Eve tempted Adam with the apple and they both partook – they understood their nudity, their sexuality. And what did their god do? He smote them with shame and threw them from “paradise”. Paradise seems a small price to pay for knowledge.
Have you ever wondered, if you do, why you feel shame about your sexuality?
Shame can be legitimate – it is an emotive recognition that one has done wrong. But if you feel shame for your sexuality, have you ever asked yourself why you feel this shame? Are you legitimately doing something wrong, like harming your partner during sex? Or is it rather that you don’t know what’s causing it, that you just feel the shame? If such is the case, then you have accepted their insidious lies and their smuggled premises – the chains of servitude have successfully been laid around your neck. No one can rule a proud man, but make him feel shame and he is yours to rule. Sexual shame is slave’s yoke. If you make a man hate himself, he will naturally want to try to fix this – all men struggle to attain the good. However, if instead of helping him to embrace his humanity and showing him the path to living well, you instead show him the chains of servitude and convince that this is the path to “ultimate salvation” – you have created a christian.
It is time for us to throw off these chains that beckon us to decadence. It is time for us to forsake this path to death. It is time for us to stand proud and say “I am Human!” To do this we must reclaim one of the most sacred realms of human activities: sexuality.
Stand with me; proclaim your pride in your sexuality.
Let us destroy their derision – let us all proudly say “I have a dirty mind!”