by Jason Stotts
I was talking with someone the other day and they pointed out that while I had an essay on pegging, I did not have an essay on male orgasm or prostate play itself and few people are likely to jump right into pegging. This seems like a fair criticism to me and so I’m hoping to rectify that here.
I want to begin with a short anatomy lesson. Even though most men are well acquainted with their penises, most know nothing more about them than how to use them to get sexual pleasure. Many men don’t even know the real names for all of their sexual parts: taint, sack, etc.
Although it’s sometimes called “the love muscle,” the penis is in fact not a muscle at all. Although an erection is called getting a “boner,” there are no bones in the penis (in humans). The penis is more properly thought of as analogous to a balloon, since what causes its rigidity is pooled blood, trapped in the penis by muscles at the base, in two cavernous bodies (corpora cavernosa) on each side of the penis. The urethra runs along the bottom, which carries both urine and semen from the body. Let’s take a look at diagram 1.
We also have the shaft, the area between the body and the head, and the head of the penis itself, which is also called the glans. Around the glans is a ridge, called the coronal ridge. At the bottom of the glans is the urethral opening, below which is the frenulum, which is a thin strip of skin connecting the glans to the shaft and foreskin (on unmutilated penises). See diagram 2, A.
In addition to the penis are the testicles, which hang below the penis in the scrotum. The testicles produce sperm, which are carried from the testicles to the seminal vesicles by the vas. The seminal vesicles produce most of the fluid we think of as semen. From here, the sperm move into the prostate itself, which produces prostatic fluid and adds the rest of the fluid to the semen. While this description is somewhat simplified, it’s sufficient for our purposes here. Take a look at this diagram for a clearer view of the path that semen has to travel.
When a male becomes sexually aroused, he experiences tumescence of his sexual organs, which swell and fill with blood in anticipation of sexual activity. During this process, the penis hardens, the skin in the genital region darkens, blood flow in increased in the entire region, and the prostate becomes engorged. The prostate sits around the urethra and immediately below the bladder. Another of the functions of the prostate is to close off the urethra from the bladder, preventing the flow of urine when a male is sexually aroused (note here that erection and arousal are not the same).
Through the above, we should have a basic grasp of male anatomy.
In terms of the male orgasm, the focus is usually the penis. Typically, stimulation is applied to the penis through the application of a hand, mouth, vagina, anus, etc. and continued stimulation leads to orgasm. This is certainly how most men think of their orgasms and it is not entirely wrong to do so. However, although the focus of the orgasm is the penis, that is not the locus of male orgasm. When a male is building to orgasm, he feels a mounting pressure deep inside his abdomen that feels more and more pleasurable until he reaches orgasm. At this point he feels intense pleasure from this deep place, throughout his penis, and a warm sensation in his abdomen in general as the blood that was pools slowly makes it’s way back into his bloodstream. This magic place deep in his abdomen where he feels the mounting pressure and pleasure of orgasm is the prostate and it is here that is the focus of male orgasm. Thus, while the penis is generally the focus of male orgasm, it is the prostate that is its locus.
We can see this more clearly if we consider that if we apply stimulation to the prostate gland itself, a male can orgasm without any stimulation of the penis. On the other hand, if we were to remove a man’s prostate, then he would be unable to orgasm ever again, even if we stimulate his penis. The prostate is the unsung hero of male orgasm. This is not to say that the penis is not important, but that the spotlight should be shared.
While most people don’t ever stimulate the prostate itself, it is actually very easy to stimulate the prostate through the anus, since the prostate sits against the anterior (front) wall of the anus. One can easily stimulate the prostate by inserting a finger or fingers into the anus and making a beckoning, come here, motion (gloves may make this easier). Alternatively, there are many toys designed to stimulate the prostate, like the aneros. For many men, direct stimulate of the prostate, with or without penile stimulation, causes much stronger orgasms than orgasms achieved via penile stimulation alone.
It’s interesting, though, that many men are afraid to even consider prostate stimulation, because they see it as a “gay thing,” since it involves their anus, and they’re afraid that by engaging in prostate stimulation, they might be making themselves gay. This is, of course, preposterous; one cannot catch the gay. Further, there is nothing explicitly gay about prostate play. The prostate is vital to all male orgasm and prostate stimulation is a uniquely male activity, whether gay or straight. Indeed, the argument that a man who stimulates his own anus is gay, since gays play with their asses, is as sensical as the argument that a man who stimulates his own penis is gay, since gays touch penises. We need to move beyond our fear of homosexuality and recognize that both straight men and bisexual men also enjoy anal stimulation and prostate stimulation and this does nothing to affect their orientation. Additionally, there is nothing wrong with being gay. The point, however, is that prostate stimulation is a uniquely male activity, no matter his orientation.
If men could get over their fear of their anuses and engage in prostate stimulation, they could open up a whole new world of pleasure for themselves, the likes of which they have never experienced before.
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