by Jason Stotts
In a recent column, Dan Savage argues that more bisexuals should come out of the closet so that they can be out in the open as part of society and can live their lives with integrity as who they really are. I fully agree with Dan about this point. All too many people think that bisexuals don’t exist because they (apparently) don’t know any bisexuals.
Not only would it be great if more bisexuals were out to their partners, it would be great if more bisexuals in opposite-sex relationships were out to their friends, families, and coworkers. More out bisexuals would mean less of that bisexual invisibility that bisexuals are always complaining about. If more bisexuals were out, more straight people would know they actually know and love sexual minorities, which would lead to less anti-LGBT bigotry generally, which would be better for everyone.
I firmly think people of all kinds should be open about who they are and what they like and that they should live their lives with integrity. If more swingers were open about being swingers, people would understand it better and would realize how many people are swingers. If more Objectivists were open about their Objectivism, people would realize how many of us there are and that many reasonable and intelligent people are Objectivists.
I think we should take a lesson from homosexuals and how much support and freedom they have won for themselves through being open about their homosexuality. Sure, it’s not without some hardship and some people’s lives were made worse, or tragically even lost, but now homosexuality is largely accepted. This same tactic of being visible and proud of who you are will work for any minority and I think bisexuals should be the next out of the closet.
Update: I wrote this with adults who are in stable situations in mind and I do not advocate one sacrificing himself for a cause. I think it would be very beneficial for more people to come out as bisexual, but they shouldn’t risk their happiness or life to do so.