Archive for August, 2011

Review: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex

by Jason Stotts

Tristan Taormino just recently released her newest movie, the “Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex” and was kind enough to send me a review copy of it.  Unsurprisingly, Tristan does not disappoint in the movie.  This is my first review of an adult product here on Erosophia and I must say that it was rather exciting to get an advanced review copy directly from Vivid, for free no less, on a subject that I’m very interested in.

I should start by saying that I was disposed to like the movie before I ever watched it.  I’ve read several of Tristan’s books and they’ve all been very well written (for example, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up) and I saw her speak live in LA and her presentation was very good.  The only book that I think is better than Tristan’s on anal sex is Jack Morin’s Anal Pleasure and Health and it’s a very different kind (more medical) of book.  Nonetheless, I think Tristan does a fabulous job on pretty much every subject I’ve seen her cover.

The DVD starts with a review of anal sex basics and anatomy.  You should pay attention in this part, but if you haven’t mastered the basics, you should probably not be jumping right into advanced anal.  She talks about anal preparation, addressing concerns about cleanliness and enemas.  She then discusses lubes and their necessity for anal (and they are very, very necessary).  She does a good job emphasizing the importance of warming up your ass before anal play (again, very important).  She finishes up her part discussing more advanced positions for anal and some more advanced techniques.

After that, there are various anal sex scenes (porn) where we can see anal sex in practice.  However, before the scenes, you get to listen to the performers talk about their feelings about anal sex and whether they real like it, etc. I thought this was refreshing to give the performers a voice and I thought it made the movie feel more complete somehow.

I really liked that they had a section on strap-on sex, enemas, and safer sex.  I really, really, liked that they showed male anal play and they didn’t make a big deal out of it.  To see a guy having his ass played with (and even pegged!) in straight porn is all too rare.  I hope that it will go a long way to helping to dispel the taboo that if a straight guy enjoys anal sex, then he’s really gay.  That’s just nonsense.

A few criticisms.  I know this is part of the Vivid Ed series and Vivid is a porn company, but the movie felt a little light on the info (compared to Tristan’s books) and a little heavy on the porn.  This may be what a lot of consumers want, but it’s not what those of us who are into learning about anal sex want. Anal porn is easy and free on the internet, whereas good information is much harder to find.  If I’m going to pay for a movie, I want it overflowing with information and I don’t really care if there’s sex in it at all.  My other criticism is that the movie included a section on choking.  Let me say that I am emphatically against choking as the risk of death is all too real and many people do die from erotic asphyxiation and auto-erotic asphyxiation.

Finally, it was a nice treat to see Nina Hartley in the film  It seemed to me to be a kind of passing of the torch type film (Nina has been making good instructional videos for a long time now) and I liked the fact that they were working together.

All in all, I’d highly recommend this video to anyone who had some experience with anal and had already mastered the basics.  For the rest of you, I’m sure you’ll still learn something, but you may want to start elsewhere.

(Tristan and I at a talk she did in LA)


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Objectivist Blog Carnival

Welcome to the August 25, 2011 edition of the Objectivist Round Up.  I’m filling in this week as an emergency host, so forgive me for not sending out reminder e-mails earlier.

Today’s quote is brought to you from Nietzsche.  Although he and I understand it differently, he phrases it so beautifully:

Egoism is the very essence of a noble soul.

There is a beauty in the writing of Nietzsche that is all too lacking in many other philosophers.  It is a shame that there is not also more truth.

Without further ado, here is this week’s carnival!


Jared Rhoads presents Twead #14: Demonic posted at The Lucidicus Project, saying, “Demonic by Ann Coulter is our 14th twead. Get the highlights here.”

C.W. presents Inflation Watch: News! posted at Krazy Economy, saying, “There has been an up tick in the indicators. Take a look. What does it mean? Are we entering hyperinflation?”

Ross England presents The Great Circumcision Rant (Rated R) posted at Think Twice, saying, “I make my thoughts known regarding infant circumcision.”

Toby Selwyn presents Why Happiness Cannot Be the Standard for Morality posted at One for One, saying, “My explanation of the fallacy underlining all forms of utilitarianism.”

Jenn Casey and Kelly Elmore present Podcast #19: Let’s Talk about Sex posted at Cultivating the Virtues, saying, “Our latest podcast focuses on talking to kids about sex, how we’ve already handled this and how we plan to handle this in the future as our kids get older. Other topics on this podcast include taking time to teach kids what to do instead of fussing at them for making mistakes and dealing with rude behavior such as name-calling and sticking their tongues out.”

Rational Jenn presents The One About the Lemonade Stand posted at Rational Jenn, saying, “All about our lemonade stand business for Lemonade Freedom Day!”

Diana Hsieh presents Campaign Finance Hurts the Small Political Activists Most posted at NoodleFood, saying, “A study by Colorado’s Secretary of State shows that small political activists suffer most under campaign finance regulations.”

Kris presents How much sugar per day for weight loss and optimal health posted at Kris Health Blog, saying, “An article about how much sugar per day for weight loss and optimal health. I believe that sugar is the primary cause of obesity and poor health.”

Santiago and Kelly Valenzuela presents Marxist Economics in the Immigration Debateposted at Mother of Exiles, saying, “Santiago writes about Marxism from Conservatives in the immigration debate.”

Paul Hsieh presents How to Stop Doctors From “Going Galt” posted at We Stand FIRM, saying, “The Obama administration has figured out how to stop doctors from retiring early in response to ObamaCare!”

Zip presents No Tribute for Layton posted at UNCOMMON SENSE, saying, “Think about it, the act of being tenacious or determined or passionate is not a virtue in and of itself. It is the idea behind the drive that matters more.”

Joshua Lipana presents Cheers to Big Tobacco for Defending Itself posted atThis is Joshua Speaking.

David C Lewis, RFA presents Social Security or Social Insecurity | Twin Tier Financialposted at A Revolution In Financial Planning, saying, “A brief discussion of the insecurity of Social Security.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of objectivist round up using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

Gary Johnson

by Jason Stotts

I detest the politics is done in America today.  It is nothing but the pandering of vacuous politicians to pressure groups who can see no farther than their own desires and who are willing to enslave others to meet their myopic ends.  It is a race between a party who wants to control our lives via our wallets and a party that wants to control our lives via our bedrooms.  I can’t imagine myself voting for either of those parties.  In fact, I usually say that elections are a decision between the evil of two lessers. Both parties sicken me for different reasons, but they have the same core: that the role of the government is to control the lives of its citizens as though it were a large nanny or a big brother.

So, imagine my surprise when I read this statement from a Republican presidential candidate:

Will the Republican Party be able to capture the White House in 2012? I believe the answer to that question will be found in how we as a party present solutions to revitalizing this current sluggish U.S. economy. The country’s economic situation is just not good. The growth that we were hoping to see has not occurred. Fresh ideas are demanded if we are to have a business climate that creates an atmosphere for fostering growth and job creation.

I have always viewed the Republican Party as the party of efficient management of the government’s pocketbook. We are the dollars and cents team. We are the ones who make decisions based on costs and benefits. When I was Governor of New Mexico I took the role of steward of taxpayer funds very seriously. I cut waste and eliminated unnecessary jobs and programs. It was not easy, but we made New Mexico more efficient, and we created private sector jobs and growth. (National Review states that I had the best job creation record of all the GOP candidates running for president, June 20, 2011) This is the same kind of management style that we need in the White House today and I believe this is the type of leadership America wants and needs now.

The Republican Party should be leading the economic discussion with the presentation of new ideas and solutions for recovery. This country is looking for a new kind of leader, someone to provide new ideas and real solutions, someone who is willing to balance the budget immediately and is not afraid to make tough decisions. Over the next few weeks and months I will be presenting real solutions and ideas that we can implement to turn this country around and create jobs and build growth in America.

While some of us talk of solving economic problems, unfortunately, there exists a part of the Republican Party that wishes to sidestep this important discussion and instead turn the attention toward social issues and morality. By making such a choice, we are missing a golden opportunity to provide leadership for America. Social issues are not going to win the White House in 2012 for the Republican Party. When I see Republican presidential candidates discussing morality as if the government were some type of watchdog and moral compass for America — then I see the American electorate being turned away from the Republican Party. America does not want government dictating actions in the bedroom, and they do not want government invading personal lives. We want a government that allows freedom and personal liberty for responsible adults. As long as we do not do harm to others, we should be allowed to live our lives in peace and free from government intervention.

I truly believe that the Republican Party is about efficient management of the government pocket-book, and that we are the party that can restore economic prosperity. However, if we continue to get sidetracked by the social conservative fringe of the party — we will never get that chance. (Link)

This is the kind of person I could vote for.  This is the kind of person I would actually try to help win an election.  Gary Johnson, I don’t know all your views (yet), but you had me at “America does not want government dictating actions in the bedroom, and they do not want government invading personal lives. We want a government that allows freedom and personal liberty for responsible adults.”

Maybe there will finally be a good candidate to come out of the Republican party, someone who is actually worth voting for.  I encourage all of my readers to go and check him out and make your own decisions about him.  I think Gary Johnson is the kind of candidate that is going to be able to get very broad support from all across the board.



Someone on Facebook posted a link to this video on Hulu that shows Gary Johnson on John Stossel’s show being asked about his positions on a large number of issues:

While I don’t think Gary Johnson is ideal, he does support governmental healthcare, I think he is by far the best candidate that we’ll see in this election and the best candidate that has a real shot at being elected.


by Jason Stotts

Scientific American recently had a good article on pornography called “The Sunny Side of Smut.” It’s one of those rare articles about porn that actually looks to the facts, instead of rationalistically condemning porn for its imagined detriments like many feminists and religious people are wont to do. In fact, the article says that:

Contrary to what many people believe, recent research shows that moderate pornography consumption does not make users more aggressive, promote sexism or harm relationships. If anything, some researchers suggest, exposure to pornography might make some people less likely to commit sexual crimes.

There you have it, if we all watched more porn, the world would be a better place.

While I agree with the article, I do think there is one danger of porn that isn’t addressed: porn creates unrealistic expectations about penis size. Imagine a virgin guy who has had no sexual contact with anyone else and who, because he does not play sports or go to the gym, has never been around other nude men.  Consequently, he has no examples of what size real human penises are.  The only place he will have ever seen penises is in porn.  Thus, his idea of what size a penis should be is going to be way off.  Consider that to be in porn, you really need an 8″ cock or larger.  There are even cocks in porn that are 9″, 10″, or even bigger.  However, if you are using these kinds of cocks as the exemplar of what size regular human cocks should be, you’re going to be sadly disappointed as the average human penis size is 5.877″ with the majority of men being between 5.5″ and 6.3″. This is wildly different than most people think of as the average penis size and this expectation has been incorrectly set by porn.

The solution, of course, is to remember that porn is fantasy, not reality, and you should not read too much into it.  Sadly, though, too many people will think that men who are wildly anomalous and who represent less than 5% of the population are actually the average, which is never good and leads to much disappointment and frustration.

If there’s interest in it, I’ll do a follow-up post about penis size and enhancement.

The Book of Mormon

by Jason Stotts

In case you haven’t heard of it, The Book of Mormon is the Tony Award winning (9 Tonys!) musical written by Matt Stone and Trey Parker (of South Park).  It is officially my favorite comedy musical, even though I haven’t seen it yet.  I did, however, get to listen to the original broadway cast recording while driving through Utah, which was its own pleasure.  The musical is running now on Broadway, but if you can’t make it to New York City, or if you’ve never been (like me), you can still listen to the music.  Amazon has both the CD and MP3 download album.

In the meantime, check out this video of the song “I Believe” from The Book of Mormon.  The video is from their performance during the Tony Awards:

Also, in case you, like me, missed the Tony’s, be sure to check out Neil Patrick Harris’ opening number:

And remember, Broadway is not just for gays anymore!

Circumcision is Immoral

by Jason Stotts

I’ve said before that circumcision is immoral; but, did you know it’s also impractical?  A new study (n = 5552) from Denmark found that:

Conclusions: Circumcision was associated with frequent orgasm difficulties in Danish men and with a range of frequent sexual difficulties in women, notably orgasm difficulties, dyspareunia and a sense of incomplete sexual needs fulfilment. Thorough examination of these matters in areas where male circumcision is more common is warranted. (link)

Remember, the moral is the practical and the immoral is impractical.  Cutting off part of a properly functioning penis does nothing but appease mythical father-figures in the sky.  In reality, it only harms the man.

There are no legitimate reasons to mutilate a baby’s genitals through “circumcision”.