Archive for September, 2013

Nominations Open for Top Sex Bloggers of 2013

by Jason Stotts

If you haven’t already done so, please  nominate me for the 2013 Top 100 Sex Blogger awards.

I came in at #93 in 2011 and #67 last year.  I’d really like to make it into the top 50 this year, so go on over to http://www.betweenmysheets.com/2013-nominations and just put a comment on that page with something like: “I nominate Jason Stotts for his blog Erosophia (www.JasonStotts.com)”.  You can also feel free to add copious and gratuitous praise.

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Help Me go to Grad School

by Jason Stotts

I started a GoFundMe campaign to help me go to grad school, which you can find at http://www.gofundme.com/jasonstotts.

It feels rather strange, virtually coming to you with metaphoric hat in hand, but I need your help. Since I graduated college I’ve been working in retail jobs to keep the bills paid while writing Erosophia and working on Eros and Ethos. Now that Eros and Ethos is done, I find that I want to have a real job with some flexibility to keep writing at the same time, but that will also help me to understand sexuality from a different perspective. So, I’ve decided that I am going to go to grad school and get my MA in counseling psychology and my Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) license.

I think that I can make some really positive changes in how we approach relationship and sexuality counseling. For example, I don’t think people who are into BDSM necessarily have psychological problems or that people who are polyamorous have commitment issues. I will help people to understand what sexual choices are beneficial in their lives and which are harmful and to help them live the best kind of sex life possible to them. I will help to define what it means to be a sex-positive counselor and what it means to integrate sex into your life in an affirming way.

Unfortunately, grad school is expensive and I’ll need to work full time during it, so I can’t go to a traditional school that meets during the day. This led me to Brandman (part of the Chapman system) that offers night classes and an accredited MFT program. It is, however, expensive.

So, I’m asking for your help. I don’t expect to raise all of the money I would need for grad school ($40,000), but if I can raise at least 10% ($4,000), it would make a really big difference. If you’ve valued my work and would like to help me out, please consider contributing. I’ve also got some fun incentives for donating!

I would really appreciate your donations, even if it’s only a couple of dollars.  With as many readers as Erosophia has, if everyone just donated a dollar, I’d have grad school covered!

If you want to help, but can’t do so financially, you can nominate me for the 2013 Top 100 Sex Blogger awards. I came in at #93 in 2011 and #67 last year.  I’d really like to make it into the top 50 this year, so go on over to http://www.betweenmysheets.com/2013-nominations and just put a comment on that page with something like: “I nominate Jason Stotts for his blog Erosophia (www.JasonStotts.com)”.  You can also feel free to add copious gratuitous praise.

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Concretizing Philosophy

by Jason Stotts 

I really love what this website http://zenpencils.com/ has done in setting some really great quotes into a visual form so that you can read the words and understand them intellectually, while concurrently understanding them in a concretized form through the artwork.  Wonderful.

 

2013-08-27-watterson http://zenpencils.com/comic/128-bill-watterson-a-cartoonists-advice/

 

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Eros and Ethos Update: First Complete Draft Done!

by Jason Stotts

I’m having a really realizing that it’s true, it just doesn’t seem possible, but I’m done with a complete draft of my first book Eros and Ethos: A New Theory and Application of Sexual Ethics.  It’s been a long hard road of writing it here and there, while working full time, as well as blogging, podcasting, and having a life.  But, it’s finally done in draft and I couldn’t be happier about it!  It exists now.

It’s just in time too, because, and I’m publicly announcing this for the first time here, I’ll be starting a MA,MFT program in just a couple of days!  The last two months have been a blur as I worked to finish the draft before the program started.  I’m pretty sure that in the last 60 days, I’ve written nearly 60,000 words.  It’s been a crazy summer and now I’ll be starting grad school, working on book revisions, and working full time.  It’s going to be a busy next couple of years.  But, I’m excited and optimistic!  I’ll be more formally announcing my decision to go to grad school soon and there will be more details there, including how you can help.

Now, some info about the book: 127,000 words, across 229 pages, and 16 chapters.  The outline is below:

Introduction

Part 1: The Theory

Chapter 1: Ethics                                                                                      

Ethics from Life

The Nature of Ethics

Egoism

Eudaimonistic Ethics

The Achievement of the Good Life

Conclusions

Chapter 2: Emotions                                                                               

What is an Emotion?

The Emotional Process

Complications

Sense of Life

Philosophy and Emotional Integration

The Passionate Life

Chapter 3: Love                                                                                        

Challenging the Old Paradigms

What Kind of Person is Capable of Love?

The Nature of Erotic Love

Chapter 4: Relationships                                                                        

The Bases of Relationships

Characteristics of a Proper Relationship

Marriage

Friendship versus Romantic Love

Chapter 5: Sexual Attraction and Fantasy                                           

Cultural Paradigms of Attraction

The Shallowness of Simple Physical Attraction

Character Attraction

Philosophy and its Role in Attraction

Fantasy

Chapter 6: Identity, Orientation, and Self-Understanding               

Understanding Identity and Orientation

A Broader Perspective: What is Orientation and Identity?

Historical Western Conceptions of Masculinity and Femininity

Reconceptualizing Masculinity and Femininity

Chapter 7: Sex, Union, and Intimacy                                                    

The Nature of Sex

Sexual Pleasure

Intimacy, Union, and a Shared Life

Conclusion and Summary of Part 1                                                     

Chapter 1: Ethics

Chapter 2: Emotions

Chapter 3: Love

Chapter 4: Romantic Relationships

Chapter 5: Sexual Attraction and Fantasy

Chapter 6: Identity, Orientation, and Self-Understanding

Chapter 7: Sex, Union, and Intimacy

Part 2: The Applications                                                                    

Chapter 8: Erotic Decadence                                                                  

The Principles of Ascension and Perversion

Perversion

Fetishism

Sexual Violence and Consent

Promiscuity and Inauthentic Love

Sexual Mutilation

Chapter 9: Faith, Mysticism, and Sex                                                    

The Sexual Ethics of Ignorance and Inaction

Taboos and Forbidden Ideas

Dualism and its Implications

Altruism’s Poison and Relationships

Masturbation: The Most Natural Thing in the World

Chapter 10: Reproduction, Progeny, and Family                               

The Value of Family

Parental Responsibility

Birth Control

Abortion

Chapter 11: Sex for Sale                                                                           

Pornography

Strip Clubs

Prostitution and Sex Work

Conclusion

Chapter 12: Children and Sexuality                                                       

The Sexual Child

Pedophilia, Hebephilia, and Ephebophilia

Incest

Age of Consent

Conclusion

Chapter 13: Polysexuality                                                                       

Terminology: Mono and Poly

But, is it Natural?

The Morality of Polysexuality?

Relationships: A Continuum of Openness

Conclusion

Chapter 14: Kink                                                                                       

The Nature of Kink

Sodomy

Male Anal Play and Prostate Stimulation

Pegging

Fisting

BDSM

Chapter 15: Public and Private                                                              

Nudity and Nakedness

Public Nudity and Nude Beaches

Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

Chapter 16: Society, Sex, and the Law                                                   

Shamenorming

Obscenity

The Right to Privacy and Sexual Self-Determination

Bestiality

Conclusion                                                                                                             

I hope you’re as excited about the book as I am!

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