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Erosophia Podcast #16: Slutshaming and Shamenorming

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, Devin, William, and Joia, discuss slutshaming and shamenorming.

News

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Sex Tips: Basic hygiene goes a long way

Before you have sex with your partner, consider the state of your hygiene!

Fun with Words

Hymen

Orgasm

Tonight’s Topic: Slutshaming and Shamenorming

Slutshaming is a form of shamenorming whose goal is to punish people who enjoy sexuality too much.

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Jason(at)JasonStotts.com

William(at)JasonStotts.com

Joia(at)JasonStotts.com

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Erosophia Podcast #15: No fap & the Phallus-y of Sexual Addiction

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In this (very late) episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, and Joia, discuss the idea of “no fap” and sex addiction.

News

1. Margaret Cho is in an open relationship.

2. 10 Year old girl arrested for rape.

3. Teens kill Australian Baseball player “for fun.”

4. The Rise of Minimalist Sex Apps.

5. Gay Sex is illegal in Louisiana.

6. Ariel Castro Accepts Plea of ‘Not Less Than a Thousand Years’.

7. Study Confirms Male Circumcision is Genital Mutilation.

8. War On Words: NYC Dept. Of Education Wants 50 ‘Forbidden’ Words Banned From Standardized Tests.

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Questions

Have you ever heard of a “split sex drive,” one seemingly divorced from romance in a peculiar way?

I noticed that when I have romantic feelings for a woman, I  don’t have any sexual interest in her. I don’t think that “sex is dirty” or anything; but I have no sexual interest in girls that I consider worthy of romance.  On the other hand, I do feel sexual interest in other women that I would not want to be in a relationship with. I think it has to do with the fact that  I am surrounded by women I don’t intellectually relate with,  so don’t desire to be in long-term relationships with. I develop “crushes” very slowly and have never really loved someone deeply.  Thus, I think it’s possible that my sex drive has programmed itself to desire these women I wouldn’t want to date because they’re what’s available and I still desire sex.  But this makes me not want to have sex, since there isn’t any long-term prospects for a relationship.

What would you suggest?

Tonight’s Topic: “No Fap” and Sex Addiction

We don’t think “sex addiction” is a real thing (and neither does science). The very paradigm of addiction in sex is harmful for people who are having self-control issues.  Instead, we need to work to integrate sex into our lives in a positive way.

America’s War on Sex – Marty Klein

http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap

http://www.martyklein.com/why-sexual-addiction-is-not-a-useful-diagnosis-and-why-it-matters/

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Questions for Us?

Jason(at)JasonStotts.com

William(at)JasonStotts.com

Joia(at)JasonStotts.com

Devin(at)JasonStotts.com

Podcast(at)JasonStotts.com

@ErosPod

A special thanks to Jennifer Snow for editing today’s podcast!

Erosophia Podcast #14: Interview with Dr. Darrel Ray on How Religion Distorts Sexuality

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, and Joia, interview Dr. Darrel Ray on religion and sexuality.

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Tonight’s Topic: Interview with Dr. Darrel Ray on How Religion Distorts Sexuality

We discussed all things related sex and religion on the show and Dr. Ray answered all of our questions and gave us some great advice for how to have real conversations with people about religion and sexuality.

It was a fantastic interview and I want to heartily thank Dr. Ray for coming on the show!

Links from the show:

The Secular Therapist Project

Recovering from Religion

Dr. Marty Klein: “Why ‘Sex Addiction’ Is Not a Useful Diagnosis – And Why it Matters.”

Darrel Ray: The Shame of it All: Why Do We Act Like Christians? (Video)

The God Virus: How religion infects our lives and culture by Dr. Darrel Ray

Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality by Dr. Darrel Ray

IPC Press – Link to the Sex and Secularism survey data.

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You can support the show by making a donation via PayPal (see bar to the right) or Amazon Payment (or any other payment method you might want, just get in touch with us).  You can also use Erosophia’s referral link to Amazon to buy things.  You can sign up for Kasidie, the best lifestyle site on the web.  Or you can tell your friends and spread the word about the podcast on Facebook and Twitter.

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Questions for Us?

Jason(at)JasonStotts.com

William(at)JasonStotts.com

Joia(at)JasonStotts.com

Devin(at)JasonStotts.com

Announcement: Erosophia Podcast Special Guest

by Jason Stotts

I am very pleased and excited to announce that tomorrow The Erosophia Podcast will be interviewing Dr. Darrel Ray on sex and religion!  Last year Dr. Ray released the very good book Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality, which I recommend for anyone who wants to understand the true, and terrible, effects that religion has on sexuality.

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Book description:

Why are all the major religions consumed with sex? What makes sex so important, whether Buddhism or Islam, Christianity or Mormonism? What is the impact of religion on human sexuality? This book explores this and more. It ventures into territory that has never been examined. You will be surprised at how much religion has influenced your sexuality, who you marry, the pleasure you get or don’t get from sex, and what you can do about it.

If you have any questions for Dr. Ray, please email them to me at Jason(at)JasonStotts.com

Dr. Ray also heads the very useful and much need organization Recovering from Religion, where they help people to re-establish their lives away from religion and to find meaning in the real world.

I’m very excited about this interview and I hope that you will enjoy it as much when it’s released!

Erosophia Podcast #13: Erotica and Pornography

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, and Joia, argue about erotica and pornography.

News

1. The Erosophia Podcast is Hot on iTunes!

2. Smallest Penis Contest Winner

3. Censorship in the UK

4. 2 naked women caught swimming in ocean in Myrtle Beach, police say

5. The Gay Not Contagious

6. Russia arresting those who promote “Non-traditional sex relations”

Books: Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why

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Questions

Hey Jason,

How do you know when you’re ready to get married?

Cheers, thanks for putting out the writing you do, and answering my previous question.

-B.

Sex Tips

Kinky doesn’t mean immoral or bad.

Homework: Think about what you’ve done that’s kinky.  Did you enjoy it?  Would you do it again?

Tonight’s Topic: Erotica & Pornography

The topic of pornography is more complicated than you might think and even trying to pin down what exactly porn is and whether it has a connection to art, is hard.

There’s no summary this time, because we haven’t come to an agreement yet.

Joia’s Pictures

From Joia:

Here’s the link to Carnalus’s erotic photography blog, Penetration of Light, which I mentioned on the podcast: http://light-penetration.blogspot.com (NSFW)

You can find another example of my modeling here: http://light-penetration.blogspot.com/2011/09/bend.html?m=1 (NSFW)

A particular favorite of mine is a self- portrait he did that inspired me to write a kind of poetic essay in response, one of the best pieces of writing I think I’ve ever done (I posted it in the Comments) — it turned me on, so I guess that makes it pornographic writing by some definition! http://light-penetration.blogspot.com/2012/10/out-of-darkness.html?m=1 (NSFW)

Joia 1 (NSFW)

Joia 2 (NSFW)

Joia 3 (NSFW)

Thanks to Carnalus Vidal for his permission to repost the pictures.  More of his work can be found at Penetration of Light (NSFW).  Also thanks to Joia for sharing them with us.

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Erosophia Podcast #12: Masturbation

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, Joia, and Devin talk about Masturbation.

News

1. Justice for girl killed by religious parents (Update from Episode #7)

2. The victims of child pornography: the children (See also: It’s about Time! and It’s about Time)

3. Britain Legalizes Gay Marriage

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Questions

If straight parents give birth to a gay child, and they can tell at an early age, can you give any tips to helping them deal with this? How would you best suggest that they embrace their child and help them understand that it isn’t their fault?

Check out: pflag.org (Parents, Families, and Friends, of Lesbians and Gays)

Send us your questions! Podcast(at)JasonStotts.com

Sex Tips

Growers and Showers: some penises grow and some show

Fun with Words

Algolagnia – love of pain during sex.  AKA masochism

See also: Venus in Furs

Tonight’s Topic: Masturbation

Masturbation can be a really great value in life.  You can learn about your sexual likes and dislikes, you can become sexually self-sufficient, it is very pleasurable, and it can even help you sleep.  Masturbation is not shameful, but is rather a normal and important part of human sexuality.  We should be proud of our bodies and the pleasures they give us.

Related Essays:

Getting Started with Male Anal Sexuality

On Male Orgasm and Prostate Play

On Pegging

On Pegging 2

Books to check out:

Betty Dodson’s Sex for One

Jack Morin’s Anal Sex and Health

Check out also:

www.redit.com/r/nofap

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Erosophia Podcast #11: An Interview with Stan and Wendy on Swinging

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, and Joia talk about swinging.  There’s also an interview with Stan and Wendy, two real life swingers about their experiences in the lifestyle.

News

1. Exodus International closes and apologizes

2. Kegels versus Squats

3. Lesbians marry across the street from Westboro baptist church! 

Betty Dodson – Sex for One

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 Questions

I’m a married man, but knew i was attracted to men for a long time.  Through therapy I’ve been able to acknowledge the gay side of my sexuality and have been able to have a periodic relationship w/ another gay guy. This certainly means that i am bi-sexual.  However, my prescribing therapist says that i am “sexual” and should not necessarily use sexual orientation labels along the sexual continuum.  What do you think?

Tonight’s Topic: Swinging

Stan and Wendy talk with us about their experiences in the lifestyle.

Summary: Swinging can be a real value in your life, but there are dangers too.  There are lots of ways to approach swinging and some are going to be better fits for a couple than others.

Related essays:

An Interview with Swingers

On Polysexuality

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Erosophia Podcast #10: Swinging

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In this episode of the Erosophia Podcast, Jason, William, and Joia talk about swinging.

Questions

I’m in an open relationship, but I’m not at all out. I’m really attracted to a girl in a presumably monogamous relationship. The feelings are decidedly mutual, and we’ve been flirting an increasing amount over the past year.

She worries that my wife will be jealous, because she doesn’t know that I have permission to go as far as I want. How do I assuage her fears without having a potentially off-putting discussion about open relationships? I’m not going to have sex with her while she is in another relationship, so there isn’t really a “next level” to take things.

-Struggling to communicate in Denver

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Sex Tips

Communicate openly and honestly.

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Fun with Words

Today’s word is: Masturbation.

Masturbation: (n.) manual stimulation of the genitals.  1766, in A. Hume’s Onanism; borrowed from French masturbation (1570 in Montaigne) and probably derived from New Latin masturbationem (nominative mastubatio), from Latin masturbari, alteration, probably by influence of turbare (to stir up), of earlier *man-stuprare (manus hand + stupare defile), which would reinforce the connection of a form with the earlier form in English masturpration, 1621, in Burton’s Anatomy of Melancholy. (Reference: Chambers Dictionary of Etymology, 1988)

From Wikipedia:

Male masturbation was an even more important image in ancient Egypt: when performed by a god it could be considered a creative or magical act: the god Atum was believed to have created the universe by masturbating to ejaculation, and the ebb and flow of the Nile was attributed to the frequency of his ejaculations. Egyptian Pharaohs, in response to this, were at one time required to masturbate ceremonially into the Nile.

The ancient Greeks regarded masturbation as a normal and healthy substitute for other forms of sexual pleasure. They considered it a safety valve against destructive sexual frustration. The Greeks also dealt with female masturbation in both their art and writings. One common term used for it was anaphlan, which roughly translates as “up-fire”.

Diogenes, speaking in jest, credited the god Hermes with its invention: he allegedly took pity on his son Pan, who was pining for Echo but unable to seduce her, and taught him the trick of masturbation in order to relieve his suffering. Pan in his turn taught the habit to young shepherds.

Tonight’s Topic: Swinging

Summary: Swinging can be a real value in your life, but there are dangers too.  There are lots of ways to approach swinging and some are going to be better fits for a couple than others.

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Essays referencedOn Polysexuality

Books Referenced: Betty Dodson’s Sex for One, Terry Gould’s The Lifestyle